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TU ESTI UN OM OBISNUIT SAU UN OM EXTRAORDINAR_blog moda motivational Bacau Adriana Vieriu

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Nu faceti glume pe seama titlului! Da, ati zice ca peste tot gasiti reguli, reguli si iar reguli, articole de tipul “cum sa…”, tips&tricks” si alte cate si mai cate. De fapt, TOTUL vine din interior! Vointa, inspiratia, revelatia, voi decideti care e elementul care declanseaza totul! Tot ce va voi spune eu in randurile urmatoare provine din zecile de moment de meditatie, sutele de carti citite, miile de discutii cu mine si nenumaratele situatii in care viata m-a pus!

#1. Risca mai mult decat e necesar!

#2. Invata mai mult decat ti se cere! Ce ar fi fost daca m-as fi limitat doar la atributiile din fisa postului la fiecare job de pana acum?!

#3. Fii puternic/puternica! Daca nu am fi, nu am avea ce povesti!

#4. Fii curajos/curajoasa! Pentru ca daca nu esti curajos, esti o cauza pierduta!

#5. Acorda-ti timp sa… respiri! Pauzele mici si dese sunt cheia marilor succese!

#6. Depaseste-ti asteptarile! Cand incepi un lucru ai doua sanse: ori castigi, ori pierzi! Insa situatia in care ajungi tot e mai buna decat daca n-ai fi inceput!

#7. Iubeste!

#8. Spune adevarul!

#9. Asuma-ti valorile pe care le ai si fii constant! Fiecare om are sau isi formeaza, cu timpul, un set de valori/principii/credinte dupa care se ghideaza cand vrea sa intreprinda ceva! Ale mele sunt: dragostea, familia, respectul de sine, siguranta, statutul intelectual, autocunoasterea, loialitatea, prietenia, dezvoltarea profesionala, bunastarea, independenta, feminitatea, responsabilitatea. Da, poate sunt multe insa ma invart in jurul lor cand iau o decizie si imi usureaza viata!

#10. Razi! Plangi! Pentru ca esti doar un om!

#11. Fugi de mediocritate pe cat posibil!

#12. Tinde spre cat mai mult!

#13. Fii umil indiferent unde te poarta viata!

#14. Depaseste-ti fricile!

#15. Fii un exemplu pozitiv, o sursa de inspiratie!

#16. Incepe acum!

#17. Nu te opri!

TU ESTI UN OM OBISNUIT SAU UN OM EXTRAORDINAR_blog moda motivational Bacau Adriana Vieriu

Don’t make fun of the title! Yes, you would say that everywhere you look, there are rules, rules and lots of rules and articles starting with “ how to…”, ”tips&tricks” and others. In fact, EVERYTHING comes from within you! Yhe will, the inspiration, the revelation, it’s you that decides what is that specific thing that moves your whole world! Below, you can find some of my rules of being amazing. They come from dozens of moments of meditation, hundreds of read books, thousands of talk with myself and lots of situations that life put me through!

#1. Risk more than is required!

#2. Learn more than is normal! If we all resume to what’s in the job description, where would we be?

#3. Be strong! If we wouldn’t be, we wouldn’t have something to write about!

#4. Be brave! Because if you aren’t, you’re a lost cause!

#5. Give yourself time to… breathe! Small and frequent breaks are the key to great successes!

#6. Go beyond your expectations! When you start something you have two chances: either you win, either you lose! But the situation you’re getting in is far better than the one you had before you started the whole thing!

#7. Love!

#8. Speak the truth!

#9. Accept your values and respect them! Every person has sau builds, in time, a set of values/principles/beliefs that guide his life when he wants to do something! Mine are: love, family, self respect, safety, intellectual status, self-knowledge, loyalty, friendship, professional development, independence, femininity, responsibility. Yes, there may be a lot of them, but I spin around them when it comes to a big decision; they ease my life!

#10. Laugh! Cry! Because you’re only a human!

#11. Run from mediocrity at any costs!

#12. Aim for more!

#13. Stay humble no matter where you get in life!

#14. Exceed your fears!

#15. Be a positive example, a source of inspiration!

#16. Start now!

#17. Don’t stop!

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YOU’VE GOT TO BE HUNGRY! #LesBrown #Motivation

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“You gotta be HUNGRY!! What are you willing to do today…to choose a brighter future tomorrow? Are you hungry enough to reinvent yourself…to grow beyond your present circumstances…to accept no excuses for not succeeding…to get up again even if you’ve been knocked down…to work harder than you ever have before…for your own life and your dream? Stop settling…you deserve to do more than just survive.

You gotta be HUNGRY!” (Les Brown)

De la nastere pana la moarte, fiecare individ are un singur scop: sa se dezvolte! Dezvoltare personala, dezvoltare intelectuala, dezvoltare profesionala etc. Daca tot avem acest obiectiv, poate ar trebui mai intai sa ne lamurim un pic cu privire la ce inseamna. De ce este atat de important sa ne dezvoltam?! De ce nu este suficient sa invatam strictul necesar pentru noi si esentialul pentru supravietuire?

Suntem oameni nu animale, prin urmare, suntem inzestrati cu ratiune si constiinta! Cadem, ne ridicam, suntem pesimisti, devenim optimisti, suntem slabi, devenim puternici… evoluam! Functionam pe baza de emotii, sentimente si senzatii care ne determina sa actionam in cele mai variate moduri. Avem nevoie sa creem si sa dezvoltam relatii, avem nevoie sa simtim ca apartinem mediului si ca ne apartinem unii altora, cu referire la nevoia de apartenenta din piramida nevoilor a lui Maslow. In cele de mai jos, am enumerat niste sfaturi pe care eu le urmez zilnic ca sa nu-mi pierd focus-ul!

#1. Fa ce in mod normal nu stii sa faci! N-ai fost instruit, n-ai citit, n-ai auzit… insa te implici oricum… pentru ca traim si invatam in mod continuu!

#2. Sustine-ti opiniile prin argumente! Daca in decursul discutiei consideri ca gresesti, admite acest lucru fara rusine si completeaza-ti strategia pentru scopul final!

#3. Vizualizeaza tot! E suficient sa iti imaginezi produsul final si deja drumul pana acolo devine mai usor!

#4. Fa demersurile mai repede decat ai planuit initial! In unele cazuri, daca stai prea mult pe ganduri, ratezi startul si pierzi timp pretios! Un lucru e sigur: timpul e singurul lucru din viata pe care nu-l poti recupera!

#5. Fii echilibrat in orice! In alimentatie, in sport, in relatiile cu ceilalti, la locul de munca, in cheltuileli, in toate.

#6. Fii spontan! Lasa la voia intamplarii imaginatia si traieste clipa! Cum am mai sus: timpul pierdut nu-l recuperezi niciodata! Fa lucrurile la timpul lor! Un exemplu elocvent: toata viata am avut o frica de apa, insa, mi-am propus ca anul acesta sa invat sa inot si sa inving fobia asta odata pentru totdeauna. Si am reusit! Este o satisfactie imensa sa castigi o lupta interioara dupa doua decenii de existenta.

#7. Sapa adanc! Informeaza-te despre temele de actualitate! Citeste presa, citeste carti din domeniul tau, din domenii diferite, citeste orice lucru de folos care iti pica in mana!

#8. Mai bine gata decat perfect! Retuseaza dupa ce ai terminat, ai tot timpul din lume! Startul e cel mai greu in toate.

#9. Foloseste-te de ce resurse ai! Pune-ti in valoare atuurile!

#10. Fii curajos! Inca e valabila afirmatia “daca nu risti, nu castigi”!

#11. Fii “infometat” in fiecare minut! Asta inseamna sa fii perseverent cu tine insuti, sa nu renunti pentru nimic la scopul pe care ti l-ai propus initial. Acest lucru e cel mai greu de indeplinit deoarece multe persoane isi pierd interesul pe parcurs. Nu fi una dintre ele! Pune pe hartie scenariile cele mai proaste si porneste la drum!

#12. Infrunta-ti temerile!

#13. Imprumuta idei de la altii, nu copia pur si simplu! Nu-ti pierde originalitatea nicicum pentru ca iti vei pierde identitatea! Vorba aia: Be yourself! Everyone else is already taken!” (Oscar Wilde)

#14. Greseste! Fara greseli, nu te poti corecta, nu poti deveni mai bun!

#15. Timpul nu schimba nimic! De fapt, tu esti cel care se schimba!

#16. Nu intreba de ce?! Intreabă de ce nu?!

#17. Colaboreaza cu ceilalti! Incearca, pe cat posibil, sa faci munca de echipa acolo unde e cazul. Mai mult ca sigur, te vei lovi de orgolii, de persoane care poate iti vor fura laurii si ideile, iti vor ascunde informatii valoroase din rea-vointa, insa infrunta-le elegant prin progresul tau.

#18. Schimba-te! Creste! Evolueaza!


From birth to death, each person has one meaning in life: to grow! Personal growth, intellectual growth, professional growth… Since we all have that same objective, maybe we know more about it. Why is it so important to grow?! Why isn’t there enough to learn the basics for survival?

We all are humans, not animals, therefore, we have mind and consciousness! We fall, we get up, we are pessimists, we become optimists, we are weak, we become strong… we evolve! We function based on emotions and feeling which determine the actions in the most elaborate ways. We need to establish relationships, we need to feel that we are part of something, of someone, as the Maslow Pyramid sustains. In the following, I shared some of the advices I follow every day in order to always stay focused!

#1. Do what you don’t know! You never read, heard or been trained for it… but you choose to do it anyway… because we live to learn and learn to live!

#2. Sustain your opinion through arguments! If you got it wrong, admit it and complete the strategy to develop the conversation!

#3. Visualize it! It’s better and easier to fight when you picture the final product!

#4. Start earlier than planned! In some cases, if you hesitate too long, you miss the START and you lose precious time! If there’s one thing for sure it’s that the time is irreversible.

#5. Be balanced in everything! In nutrition, health, sports, the friendships you have, at the work place, in spending money, in everything.

#6. Be spontaneous! Go with the flow! As I said before: the time is irreversible! Here’s the perfect example: my whole life I was afraid of water, but, I promised to myself that this year I will defeat this phobia once and for all. And I succeeded! It’s a tremendous accomplishment after two decades of fear.

#7. Dig deeper! Read about current events! Read the newspapers, read book related you your interests, read anything useful that you can find!

#8. Better done than perfect! You can retouch after you finished it because you have all the time in the world! The beginning is always the hardest!

#9. Use what you have! Use your advantages!

#10. Be brave! If you don’t play, you can’t win!

#11. Be “hungry” every minute of it! Be consistent and don’t let go! This one is hard because lots of people just lose the interest. Don’t be one of the quitters! Be aware of the worst scenario and start the project!

#12. Face your fears!

#13. Borrow ideas from other, don’t copy them! “Be yourself! Everyone else is already taken!” (Oscar Wilde)

#14. Make a mistake! Without mistakes, there is no improvement!

#15. Time doesn’t change a thing! In fact, the one that’s changing is you!

#16. Don’t ask why?! Ask why not?!

#17. Teamwork! Where it’s possible, try to do teamwork when necessary. You’ll find people with vanity, people who take advantage of your success, people who can steal your ideas, but face them with your progress!

#18. Change! Grow! Evolve!

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15 PASI PENTRU A INVINGE AUTOSABOTAREA

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Autosabotarea reprezinta implicarea in comportamente ce te conduc catre rezultate pe care tu nu ti le doresti. Cei mai norocosi le constientizeaza la timpul potrivit, insa continua sa isi faca rau singuri prin urmare isi taie singur creanga de sub picioare. Dacă iti doresti sa elimini autosabotajul din viata ta, atunci poti sa te pui pe treaba in felul urmator:

#1. Admite ca te autosabotezi! Fii barbata! (Tipatescu via Zoe, “O scrisoare pierduta” de I.L.Caragiale). Acceptarea autosabotarii este primul pas spre vindecare (ca sa fiu radicala).

#2. Constientizeaza si scrie pe o foaie de hartie cum te autosabotezi! Gandeste-te la anul care a trecut si scrie cum anume te-ai limitat singur, in toate aspectele vietii tale: job, viata personala, prieteni, familie, bani etc.

#3. Admite ca esti singurul responsabil pentru gandurile si actiunile tale! Da, oamenii, situatiile in care te afli, un anumit context, o simpla coincidenta iti pot influenta imaginatia, gandurile si, in final, actiunile. Cand vei avea 100% control asupra ratiunii, vei inceta sa mai dai vina pe celelalte persoane pentru esecurile tale.

#4. Intocmeste planul de bataie! Acesta va combate orice incercare de autosabotare pe viitor.

#5. Impartaseste-ti planurile cuiva de incredere! In doi ai mai mult curaj si vei fi motivat fara sa vrei: poate fi un prieten, un membru al familiei, partenerul de viata sau chiar un mentor specializat.

#6. Admite ca schimbarea se face doar cu efort! In fond, este vorba despre tine si despre viata ta!

#7. Crede in tine! Chiar daca acum ti-e greu, cauta metode de a-ti intari increderea in propria persoana!

#8. Promite ca din acest moment incetezi sa te mai autosabotezi! Poti chiar sa scrii pe o hartie aceasta promisiune si sa o semnezi. Va avea un efect extrem de puternic! Esti liber sa iti pui prin casa post-it-uri (via #BeingMaryJane)! Pune-ti memento in fiecare dimineata! Reciteste fraza in pauza de masa! Orice functioneaza pentru tine!

#9. Sarbatoreste-ti eforturile care dau rezultate! Meriti sa sarbatoresti daca ai avut un succes pe acest drum al schimbarii. Si cu cat vei sarbatori mai des, cu atat vei prinde mai mult curaj, iar lucrurile vor fi din ce in ce mai usoare! Tot ce trebuie sa faci este sa fii sincer cu tine insuti! Nu trisa cad oar e in defavoarea ta!

#10. Invata! Citeste orice crezi ca te motiveaza sau te inspira!

#11. Respinge negativismul din orice directie! Fii sigur ca vei mai avea ganduri si emotii negative, insa, cu timpul, vei filtra informatiile si emotiile si vei impiedica “norul negru” ce inainte te apasa asa tare. Cu totii avem acel prieten prapastios care parca nu iese din cenusiul vietii. Nu fi tu acel om! Fii omul care se schimba, care il schimba!

#12. Da-ti voie sa te transformi! Deschide-ti mintea catre noi posibilitati si prinde oportunitatile care te inconjoara. Gandeste diferit!

#13. Gandeste-te si la posibilitatea de a folosi suport profesionist! Daca incepi sa dai inapoi sau esti departe de a-ti gasi singur resursele si puterea, cauta solutii! Poate fi un consilier, un mentor sau chiar o persoana care a trecut cu succes prin asa ceva.

#14. Persevereaza! Este singura metoda care da rezultate. Cu siguranta, daca te opresti vei esua iar startul va fi de 2 ori mai greu.

#15. Reinnoieste-ti promisiunea ori de cate ori simti nevoia!

Stiu ca suna ciudat si pare o lista prea lunga! Insa fiecare pas este gandit si testat pe propria piele. Cu totii am avut, cel putin o data in viata, o pasa proasta in care parca totul parea negru. Parcurgand pas cu pas, vei fi uimit sa constati ca esti din ce in ce mai multumit de tine, vei simți cum lumea din jur se schimba! Pentru ca tu te-ai schimbat!

Self-sabotage is the behavior which leads to bad results you don’t even want. The lucky ones observe them at the right time, but they still engage in the wrong actions, therefore they are bullying themselves. If you wish to eliminate the self-sabotage from your life, you can do the following:

#1. Admit the fact that you are self-sabotaging! Be a man! (Tipatescu via Zoe, “A lost letter” by I.L.Caragiale). Accepting it is the first step towards healing (just to be radical).

#2. Write on a piece of paper the facts! Think about the past year and write the specific actions that you sabotaged: the job, the personal life, friends, family, money and so on.

#3. Admit that you are the sole responsible for your thoughts and your actions! Yes, the other people, a specific situation, a certain context, a coincidence can influence the imagination, the thoughts and the actions. When you’ll control your mind 100%, you’ll stop blaming others for your failures.

#4. Make a plan! This one will beat every wrong turn.

#5. Share with someone you trust! You’ll have more courage, you’ll be much more motivated when you share the plan with someone you trust: a friend, a brother/sister/cousin, the life partner or even a mentor.

#6. Put effort in it! After all, it’s you and your life!

#7. Believe in yourself! Even though it’s hard, search a method to do it!

#8. Promise from this moment on, that you’ll stop bullying yourself! You can even write it on a paper and sign it. It will mark the moment! You can put post-it in your house (via #BeingMaryJane)! Set the alarm every morning! Read it in the lunch break! Whatever works for you!

#9. Celebrate the efforts that pay off! You deserve to celebrate every step of the way in which you have succeeded! If you celebrate it more often, you become motivated even more and the things will get easier. All you have to do is to be honest with yourself! Don’t cheat!

#10. Learn! Read whatever inspires you and keeps you focused!

#11. Reject all forms of negativity! You’ll still think in the wrong way, but, in time, you’ll become positive! Step by step! We all have that one negative friend! Don’t be that one! Be the one who changes him/her!

#12. Go with the flow! Open your mind toward new possibilities and take advantage of the opportunities around you! Think outside the box!

#13. Consider to talk with a specialist! If you start to back off and you don’t have the strength to do it, search a simple solution. It may be a counselor, a mentor or even a person who experienced it before.

#14. Be persistent! It’s the only way. If you stop, you’ll fail and the start will be twice as harder.

#15. Renew your promise every other day!

I know it may sound weird and the list above is too long! But every step of the way is tested. We all had, at least once in a lifetime, a bad day in which everything seemed the worst ever. Taking it step by step, you’ll be amazed to see who you became and you’ll see the world in a different way! Because you’ve changed!

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